When Did We Start Dressing to Disappear?

There was a time we got dressed because it was fun.

Then somewhere along the way, we started dressing to blend in.

Neutral. Safe. Low-key.
Nothing wrong with those things.
But when did they become the rule?

The Rise of “Safe” Style

Scroll social media.
It’s beige. Black. Cream. Repeat.

Minimal is clean. It photographs well. It sells.

But for a lot of women, it also feels… flat.

We buy clothes that won’t offend.
Won’t stand out.
Won’t start a conversation.

We tell ourselves it’s “classic.”
Sometimes it’s just cautious.

Shrinking in Subtle Ways

No one wakes up and says, “Today I’ll play small.”

It happens slowly.

You stop wearing the bold jacket.
You tone down the color.
You pick the top that won’t get comments.

Because comments feel risky.

Being noticed feels risky.

So we choose safe.

The Psychology of Blending In

Clothing affects posture. Mood. Energy.

When you wear something neutral and forgettable, you move differently.
Less eye contact.
Less presence.

When you wear something with intention — a statement top, a jacket with texture, a bag that feels like art — your body shifts.

You stand straighter.
You take up space.

Not loud.
Just grounded.

That shift matters.

Bold Doesn’t Mean Overdone

This is important.

Dressing with intention doesn’t mean chaos.
It doesn’t mean wearing every color at once.

It can be simple:

• Denim + one statement jacket

• Black base + bold bag

• Neutral outfit + textured duster

One piece that says, “I chose this.”

That’s it.

Maybe It’s Not About Attention

Maybe it’s about alignment.

Wearing something different isn’t about being dramatic.
It’s about not hiding.

If you’ve ever opened your closet and felt bored…
If you’ve ever bought something safe and regretted it…
If you’ve ever thought, “I used to dress more like me”…

That’s the moment.

Maybe we didn’t start dressing to disappear.
Maybe we just got busy. Practical. Careful.

But you can choose differently anytime.

Start small.
Add one bold piece.
Notice how you feel.

That’s where it begins.

-Sherry

Poppin Loom